As a self-love and manifesting guru, I love how my two favorite topics converged in last week’s guest post. To paraphrase:
Be in the present to create your best future.
There, in one cozy nutshell, nestles self-love with manifesting.
Let’s break it down, and then break it down again.
First, how is being in the present connected to self-love?
Being in the present means accepting what is.
OK. You’re not feeling it yet? Perhaps it will mean more if I say that…
Being present is a laying down of the burden of what isn’t.
As a culture, we are conditioned to want to be somewhere else, to have something we don’t have. This drive for acquisition and achievement has its positive aspect, yet for so many, it induces an existence in which happiness is never present, but rather, always around the corner, at the next acquisition or achievement.
We attempt to live in a place that does not exist – over there, at the end of the race. This is not living at all. It is impossible, and only creates frustration.
The only way we can get to the end is to be here, present, where we are, wherever we are on the course.
These false beliefs, that tell us we need to be somewhere else, or be something else, or be other than what and where we are, are burdens that we carry.
Until we realize we are carrying them, we will not know to set them down.
Imagine, if you will, a busy woman coming home from a full day. She is dressed for work and is carrying her purse and briefcase and multiple packages from some shopping she managed to squeeze in on her way home.
She juggles bags, sunglasses, briefcase and purse as she digs out her keys to open the door to her home.
She gets the door open steps inside – ahh.
The purse and briefcase are set down in the hall – ahh.
The shoes are kicked off – ahh.
The bags go to the kitchen table – ahh.
Sunglasses and keys down, suit jacket off – ahh.
She washes her face, and the make-up comes off – ahh.
Rings, earrings, jewelry off – ahh.
With each layer she takes off, she moves closer to a feeling of comfort and at-one-ness with herself.
This is not to say that her job or lifestyle are false – not at all! It is to say that these are layers of purpose, responsibility and preferences she has adopted as part of her identity. If the layers fit, if they feel comfortable and bring joy, then great.
However, if they do not fit, if they bring pain, then how wonderful it is to let them go, just like kicking off the shoes that pinch. Ahhh.
The key is to know our own feelings.
A big part of self-love is self-knowledge.
It helps to be aware.
We can get so used to the tight shoes that we don’t notice them any more. Maybe it will take an exacerbation of the discomfort before we notice. We can ignore the pain until a bunion, or arthritis, or stiffness in the morning forces us to pay attention.
(I love high heels just as much as the next gal, but let’s be honest, the payoff may be worth it, but it comes at a cost!)
That’s awareness, and it comes from self-knowledge.
Know who you are.
Know the burdens you are carrying.
Know the layers you have adopted as part of who you are.
The ‘burdens’ I’ve described so far are some of the physical trappings of a life. Far heavier are the burdens of false belief that we carry around with us every minute of every day, beliefs that tell us we can’t do this, or don’t deserve that, or are too late for that.
Those false beliefs sit at the core of our being, unseen and unnoticed, and yet dictating our every reality. They keep us from experiencing the present, because they tell us that happiness is somewhere else – perhaps just around the corner, or at the next finish line – rather than right here, right now, wherever we are on the course.
Those false beliefs are unreal and impossible, and only create frustration. How wonderful to lay those burdens down, and know the truth.
You mean, I am not limited in any way? Ahhh!
You mean, I am a child of abundance, brilliance and beauty? Ahhh!
You mean, happiness and joy are available to me at every moment? Ahhh!
How wonderful to lay those burdens down.
This is the act of creating the present, so the NOW becomes the seed of the future you wish to see.
More on that next week!
I look forward to your comments on this post.
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