My little story about wearing a shiny gold hat one morning got a BIG response.
Small is the new big, anyone?
A sparkly hat might not make the evening news, nonetheless, a small thing can mean so much. In the comments on the story each person took a slightly different message away from it. Something as incidental as wearing a daring hat brought up a wide range of recognition and connection.
I’ve noticed how many profound ‘aha’s’ stem from the simplest of ideas, and I continue to be intrigued with the phenomenon of a small thing making a big difference. I pursued this idea on my FB fan page and in my FB group, Leaders in Self-Love, asking:
What’s one small thing that makes a BIG difference?
The answers were so marvelous and varied that I asked permission to share them here. Here’s a sample of what was said by the brilliant, wise women in my beloved online community:
“I chose to be kind to a man who was rude to me and the ripple effects were endless.” Shelley Lundquist
“One little thing (one of many little things!) was replacing the words “have to” with “get to” or “choose to.” Instead of “I have to go to work,” it’s “I choose to go to work.” One little shift in vocabulary makes a huge difference in perspective!” Peggy Nolan
“Appreciating the phrase, “Small is new new big,” Reba Linker. I inquired about a woman’s Ganesh tatoo while standing in line to check out at a thrift store last week; I asked if she’d ever been to India. One question evolved into a 30-minute conversation, soul connections, and now she’s going to attend my monthly Divine Dialogue Writing-shop here in Tampa Bay. Later she told me that in the morning she’d prayed to meet a like-minded spiritual sister, and there I was! She shared she hadn’t even intended to go to the thrift store as she had a job interview to prep for, but went anyway. HOW FUN!” Lore Raymond
Giving myself the permission to pause….” Debra Reble
“The usually good-natured Alex [canine] was a bit of a pill at the vet’s office last week. (None of us really blamed him — it HURT.) The next day I brought him back in to apologize — and get some cookies. The vet staff and I had fun… and his faith in them (as cool, non-ouchy people) seems to have been restored. Going back tomorrow so we’ll see.” Andrea Patten
“A few years ago when I was still working, they changed the bus schedule for the bus I took to work every day, so I decided to take an earlier bus rather than a later one so I would have time for a cup of coffee before I started work. Low and behold, just by taking an earlier bus, I met the woman who has since become my best friend and dearest soul sister!” Barb Parcells
“I gave a copy of my book to a sweet young woman. She called me and said she has a book club with over a dozen young women. She wants to have them read my book next and invited me come in to introduce the book. After http://outdoortvclassics.com/cheap-accutane-online/ they read it I will come back and answer questions. My book Angels handle the details and bring me happy surprises each week!” Debra Oakland
Making a conscious effort to tell my daughter what I value and appreciate about her. As she’s crossed into adolescence our contact throughout the day had become much more centered on actions she needed “to do” or behaviors she needed to change. It was bringing both of us down and tarnishing what has been an amazing relationship up until then. So I began sprinkling in what I love and value about her and she’s loving it.” Joni Advent Maher
“I started noticing what I love about my husband instead of what I didn’t.” Josee Smith
“I put myself in somebody else’s shoes before responding.” Lea Tran
“I began an innovative program of teaching students that are thought to be unteachable. Phooey on that!! They are sweet, misunderstood loving souls.” Natasha Botkin
“Using Hooponopono every day.” Suzie Cheel
“Opened a Facebook group. Seriously, I had no idea that this was going to become such an instrumental part of… everything. Not just my business, but my life.” Vironika Tugaleva
“Show up to work this afternoon for the at-risk youth I help out.” Latrelle Ross
“When I started my day I did the 90 seconds as fast as I can of gratitude ?? It definitely helped start my day on a positive…. I probably looked crazy to other drivers as I was doing it out loud in my car.” Joanna O’Brien
“Exactly right.. Small things can create huge change. I did 5 minutes of yoga stretches and it made me feel so awake and centered.” Carmela Garone
“I can accept that I don’t know and see what miracles arise.” Jenny Griffin
“Gratitude thoughts as soon as I open my eyes. Gratitude changed my life.” Lisa Jennifer Petr
“Grateful for a spectacular day yesterday with no anxiety! And I’ve decided to eat clean-er this week.” Denise Dwyer D’Errico
Thank you! Your responses lit up my world!
Does “small is the new big” resonate with YOU?
What’s one small thing YOU can do that makes a big difference?
Click to read many of the original comments at The Real Us: How a Sparkly Hat Helped Me Be Authentic, published in April 2016.
The story of the hat was first published here in 2013: The Hat: Dare to Shine.
For those who love to listen to a story, I read The Hat: Dare to Shine, aloud on Youtube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yHGakGi0aUY). As always, give us a ‘Like’ and a comment and let your voice be heard!
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