What kind of goals are the ‘right’ goals to follow?
I spent years chasing the outward signs of success, only to feel oddly empty when I achieved them, or frustrated when I did not. In neither case did chasing external goals lead to happiness or satisfaction.
I now understand that only I have the power to give myself the recognition that my soul yearns for. What a relief to rest from the chase, and simply grant myself the love and recognition I desire. It is that easy.
Let your inner goals be your North Star. They will lead you on pathways of peace, creativity and contentment.
In a recent NYT article (As VW Pushed to Be No. 1, Ambitions Fueled a Scandal, 9/27/2015, pp.1 & 24), authors Danny Hakim, Aaron M. Kessler and Jack Ewing, wrote that in 2011, Martin Winterkorn, Volkswagen CEO, publicly declared his ambition to be the world’s largest automobile manufacturer.
As we know from the scandal that broke about the company’s rigging of VW’s exhaust tests, Winterkorn did anything and everything to accomplish his goal of being #1, including abuse of his customers’ trust and cynical betrayal of the ecological platform upon which he built the company’s success: through his deceit VW cars actually polluted not less, but rather, more than other cars.
In a previous post (The Magic Power to Transform Everything), I wrote that we can always find our way around an obstacle if we search for the opening, rather than focus upon the obstacle.
Winterkorn did that. He wanted to be #1. Everything was subordinate to that goal.
However, in his case, finding ways around the obstacles that life placed in his way led to corruption, deception, betrayal, and lawlessness.
What would have happened if Winterkorn had followed his inner goals, rather than his external ambitions?
I don’t know the man, but the drive to achieve a position of dominance is most often a reflection of inner emotional needs. Perhaps Winterkorn needed to prove something to someone from his past. If so, and this is all hypothetical, of course, his inner motivators might be stated as recognition, and admiration.
Even without healing his inner wound, if he had been guided by his inner motivations, rather than by his ambitions, they would have led him in a far different direction. They just might have steered him to actually achieve that which he desired.
If Winterkorn had chosen to be guided by his inner goals of, say, recognition and admiration, he might have focused on doing deeds that were worthy of admiration. More importantly, he might have looked within, to grant himself the acceptance and recognition from others that he so desperately chased after.
Winterkorn played his game on a worldwide stage, yet we all face the same decision about the goals we select to guide our lives. The story of Winterkorn and Volkswagen is a cautionary tale on choosing the right type of goals to follow.
As I discovered in my own life, chasing an external goal leads to a hollow victory. Winterkorn did, indeed, achieve his goal to be the #1 carmaker in July of this year; the scandal exploded two months later.
His achievement was as shaky as the foundation it was built upon.
Choose the goals you live by wisely. Let your inner goals be your North Stars, and everything else will fall into place around that.
What are your goals?
Be careful, you might just achieve them!
Can you state them in terms of inner qualities rather than external achievements?
I’d look forward to reading your comments!
Reba Linker is a master teacher, bestselling author, and life coach, ready to lead you on the path of self-love to a happier and more fulfilling way of life.
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